I need to give you a little bit of background before I jump into this story.
Once upon a time I had a BFF (we'll call her Mary Lou Sue Who or Mary for short) whom I could talk to for hours and hours and hours and never run out of things to say. We just got each other. But we were so much alike, that we did bump heads every now again, but nothing serious. Eventually we became roommates and it was so much fun. At the beginning. Then started to drive each other nuts and would get angry with one another for using the last bit of shampoo or toothpaste or something else really stupid.
Mary eventually moved out and we completely stopped talking. I really can't even remember now what the actual demise was.
So I keep having this reoccurring dream that I ask her to be my bridesmaid. I haven't talked to her in 2 years. Nothing. We went from hanging out every day to just nothing.
Well finally, after having the dream about 5 times, I decided to email her. I was actually nervous writing the email because I wasn't sure how she'd react or if she'd even bother to email me back. I said something along the lines of, "I know I'm probably the last person you expected to hear from, but I just wanna say that I am sorry for everything that happened that lead us to not speaking and that I hope life is treating you well."
Ten minutes later, I get an email back. She was soooo excited to hear from me and said that she was debating on whether or not to congratulate me on my engagement (small town, remember? news travels) and that she missed talking to me and that she was sorry too.
Since then we've emailed each other like 10 times. Then we exchanged numbers with promises to call.
It feels good. Even if we never actually become BFFs again and start hanging out everyday, I feel very happy that we are on good terms.
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What a wonderful thing JD - I am so happy for you both. I think some friends are just meant to be our friends forever.
Have a great weekend!
Oh isn't that a lovely story. Just goes to show that sometimes we should just take that leap in the dark, as you did when you sent your BFF that e-mail. Good news that you are now back in touch again.
Oh that's so exciting!!! My bestie and I (I have two but this one was my roomie too) really grew apart after my brother died because she just didn't get it and we never really had that, let's cry together connection (that's what I have with my other bestie). We were more the live together have fun, go shopping, be catty, look at boys best friends. So when my brother died, she just flaked on me - and we LIVED together. She never asked how I was doing, and the first year memorial, she showed up for like an hour then left to go to her boyfriends for dinner and never came back like she promised. It was just so hard. Anyways like a year or two later she told me her mom had cancer and that she finally understood what I was going through and we became close again, but not like we were. Then!! her boyfriend broke up with her a month before Stewart and I broke up (Stewart's best friend was her boyfriend and they are the ppl that set us up)...then Stewart and I broke up and now we hang out 3-5 times a week. We're sooooo close again just like in high school...actually we're closer. Closer than we ever were LIVING together. It's amazing. This past weekend she was my date (yah we're classy like that) at my brother's memorial party... and she said (very drunkenly) - "You know what's the best thing to come from these horrible break-ups?" and I said "What?" she said "We have us back" and it's so true....
So that being said LONGGGG story summarized... if you work at it, and you want it back it can come back and be better than ever!
That is pretty cool.
Good on you for being strong and reaching out to her. Regardless of how things turn out in the long run (which I'm sure will be just fine), you did the right thing by trying to create peace!
Happy Weekend!!!
The Ranter's Box
When I wrote about my best friend K, we've been friends for 44 years. We've gone 2 years without talking just because life got in the way. But we pick up the phone and it's as if we just talked yesterday. That's a best friend forever relationship. I hope the two of you can continue the friendship and just call this a "blip".
I am so glad you were able to reconnect with an old friend! Since I came home for good from college I have been doing the same thing. It's a really good feeling and I hope you too stay in touch :D
good news that she emailed back and that you are now speaking again :)
no matter what happens, it is best to sort old stuff before starting a new life chapter. Hope it works out and you regain a lovely friendship
That's so nice that you guys are talking again! And who knows? Maybe she'll end up being a bridesmaid ;) Dreams are weird like that!
Wow :)
first of all, congratulations on the engagement! :)
second... I have the same experience before with my cousin... he was my bff and my hero to the rescue. but due to some petty fights of our parents, it affected us eventually even if we've tried efforts not to end up going against each other... and i lost a bestfriend...
i tried emailing him one day. but sadly, i got a negative response..
he said he was okay with his life and he doesnt want to hear from me ever again...
horrible thing to say right?? and we are bloodly related!
well anyway.. at least i did my part.. but i guess i wont stop trying... maybe after another 5 years ill email him again :)) check if he has changed his mind.
Even if friendships don't stay at one consistent level, it's nice to know that one hasn't just been lost completely. I understand your happiness.
There are some friends that I haven't talked to since they moved and I wish that I knew more about them that I could find them on facebook or something and regain connections.
Healing is almost always a good option. Glad it's working out for you. :)
No matter how good of friends you are with someone you should not live with them of if you do if it isn't working out stop sharing a place before the friendship suffers. My daughter Jes shared a house with her best friend for a while but they where fighting so much that as soon as their lease ended they went seprate ways so their friendship would last which it has.
I am glad you and her have made up and are back on talking terms some people should just not live together.
Loooooooove that you were the bigger person and broke the silence first! I love happy stories.
Happy sigh. Girlish hug.
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