Miss Innocent has chosen topic # 1...Marriage/Relationships
On single or being single - God may be slow, but He is never too late :)
"Look at us. running around. Always Rushed. Always late. I guess that's why they call it the human race. What we crave the most is connection. For some people it happens at first sight. It's when you know, you know. It's faith working it's magic. Well that's great for them. But that's not how it really works. For the rest of us it's a bit less romantic. It's complicated. It's messy. It's about horrible timing and fumbled opportunities. And not being able to say, what you need to say, when you need to say it."- from the movie "The Switch"
Hello guys, I'm Miss Innocent and I have a blog which is Long Distance Love Affair. Jumblemash actually made me choose from 5 topics on which to make a guest post about. It wasn't that easy but then I thought, my blog is mostly about my love life so might as well guest post about LOVE right? lol. I'm not an expert, nor do I work for Dr. Love and not all of you might have a love life to be interested in the topic anyway. But what I do know is that the post that I'm going to share is something that all of us can relate.
finding "the one"
To tell you the truth, I'm not really the type of girl who collected boyfriends. To be honest, unlike most girls I knew, I never had a single boyfriend back in high school or even before. I had my first boyfriend when I graduated high school at 17. And I wouldn't even know if he counted as a boyfriend since we only lasted for 2 weeks and we barely saw each other because my father grounded me when he found out. LOL. My second boyfriend was in college and it was my first or longest commitment I ever had. Eighth months. I wouldn't know if you would consider that a long commitment, but hey... it WAS for me! My third boyfriend was AFTER college. Well... he's my current boyfriend now. And we just had our 2nd year anniversary last Saturday, September 11, 2010. With that I have told you that I only had THREE boyfriends out of these twenty-two years.
Again, unlike my other friends... they HAD TONS.
I won't say that I'm ugly but if you must judge, hey... my class chose me to be a candidate of our school's pageant! I won't say much details what happened about that pageant because that's some history I want to keep in pandora's box (lol).
So anyway... I had a lot of admirers.
But I never had a boyfriend.
Not because I had high maintenance or I turned them down.
But because no one actually courted me. *blech*
I would always say... I was the type for guys to have a crush on, but never was the type that they would woo.
I had a couple of crushes, or mutual understandings... And I KNEW, a lot of boys had a crush on me too... but I never had any chance to be in any kind of commitment.
I would always tell my girlfriends that my motto was: "Why have one? When you can have many?" I had a lot of girls getting jealous because I was hanging out with their crushes and their suitors. My girlfriends would just agree and envy, because I got to hang out and be one of the boys anytime I wanted. And on events, I would drag my attached best friends with me and pretend to have a singles day out, hunting for boys to flirt with. I would almost forget that they had a boyfriend.
But little did they knew.. that I did not want to be single. I wanted to have a boyfriend too.
WHO DOESN'T WANT TO FALL IN LOVE?
WHO DOESN'T WANT TO LOVE AND BE LOVED IN RETURN?
People always say, "there are lots of fishes in the sea". I would say,"Why fish? When you can dive?"
But not all of us are the lucky ones are we? There are just those girls who would have suitors lining up for them and there are just those girls who would have boyfriends one after another. While some of us, stay single as the same.
I guess, what I'm about to say is going to be a b.s. of cliche. But I just have to say it myself.
It's all about the timing.
I've explained in my first blog post, how fast my boyfriend and I got together. It's like I met him today... and tonight we're a couple. We've had our own obstacles, and we've had our moments of questioning ourselves. But in the end we always had the same results, we just had to get back together.
I do not know if he is "the one" nor did I expect that we were going to last for more than a couple of months. But now we just had our second anniversary. And even though we are not physically together, we are still committed to one another. Talk about love at second sight. Talk about just going with life's "flow".
And I've learned in the process, never to push it. We have to learn our limitations when to stop. Because if we do force things to happen, we only end up getting the wrong results. I would say "God may be slow... but He is never late."
And you know what? .... Remember those friends who had one boyfriend after another? Who had tons of suitors every now and then? Well they still do have a lot of suitors, I am still envious. But not one of those suitors were the type that my friends would want to have a "long term commitment" with. Every time I meet my friends, it's just a different new boyfriend. Some of them were just passing and I didn't had the chance to meet.
One of my friends actually told me that she's happy that I have a boyfriend now. And she's happier because I have the same boyfriend for so long. I told her "I thought you enjoy dating and flirting with various men?". She said, "I do, but because I have no choice. None of them are a long term commitment type"
"Look at us. running around. Always Rushed. Always late. I guess that's why they call it the human race. But sometimes, it slows down just as enough for all the pieces to fall into place. faith works it's magic. Every once in a while, in all the randomness, something unexpected happens and it pushes us all forward. And the truth is when I'm starting to think, when I'm starting to feel, is that maybe the human race isn't a race at all." - from the Movie "The Switch"
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